
In her book Between Dignity and Despair: Jewish Life In Nazi Germany, Marion Kaplan sets herself an extraordinary task. She attempts to recreate the experience of ordinary Jewish people living in Germany between the rise to power of the Nazis and the end of Nazi rule with Germany’s defeat at the end of the Second World War. Kaplan has read the diaries, memoirs and correspondence of Jews who lived and many of whom died in this terrible period of world history. She has interviewed survivors and read the historical accounts of the time in her attempt to recreate life for the Jew under Nazi rule.
But Kaplan’s attempt to draw a picture of Jewish life in Nazi Germany is not a completely disinterested exercise in historical reconstruction. Kaplan brings a specific ideological agenda to her task. She clearly articulates this agenda in her introduction saying “this book will be successful if readers begin to visualize how confusing the so-called writing on the wall really was before 1938.” Kaplan has set out to exonerate the victims of Nazi genocide from any possible culpability in their own fate.
While Kaplan is determined to free the Jewish people from responsibility for the consequences of their choices in the early years of Nazi rule, she is equally determined to lay blame for the actions of the Nazis at the feet of all Germans:
The pivotal question here is not what Germans knew about the genocide but rather who chose to believe the facts that were emerging. A conscientious and concerned German could figure out that the Jews were being exterminated. The disbelief of the victims, suffering from lack of information and isolation, is different from the disbelief of the perpetrators and bystanders, whose callous disregard about the fate of the Jews is striking.
Certainly, no one should for one minute suggest that the Jewish victims of Nazi brutality bear any guilt for their terrible fate. The death machine that rolled over the Jewish people in Europe was an incomprehensible almost unstoppable monster perpetrating atrocities so unimaginable that it is difficult to expect anyone could have foreseen the full extent of the horror being inflicted upon the Jewish population of Europe. Yet, there is a nagging feeling that Kaplan’s denial of the role played by the choices Jews made in the early years of Nazi rule is in conflict with the evidence of her own book.
Kaplan speaks frequently of the Jews’ tendency in Germany to “deceive themselves.” She points to the “psychological denial” and determination to maintain “the illusion of a normal middle class existence” that so often led Jewish people to choose “denial of their immediate hardships.”
But, at the same time, Kaplan quotes Marta Appel who as early as 1933 seems to have had a clear vision of the horror represented by the Nazi regime.
But after some months of a regime of terror, fidelity and friendship had lost their meaning, and fear and treachery had replaced them… With each day of the Nazi regime, the abyss between us and our fellow citizens grew larger. Friends whom we had loved for years did not know us any more. They suddenly saw that we were different from themselves. Of course we were different, since we were bearing the stigma of Nazi hatred, since we were hunted like deer.
Combined with the fact that by 1938, one quarter of German Jews had already made the bold choice to emigrate, it is unrealistic and perhaps dishonest not to consider the impact of what Kaplan refers to as a tendency on the part of those who remained to choose “escapism” over the pain of facing the reality of their condition. Kaplan accounts for one family’s determination to remain in Germany quoting the daughter of a wealthy businessman who said of her father
“When the Nazis appeared on the scene, he was too reluctant to consolidate everything and leave Germany. He may have been a bit too attached to his status, as well as his possessions.”
The most chilling example of denial occurs on Kristallnacht where Kaplan quotes a Jewish woman recounting her family’s reaction to the violence unfolding against Jewish people outside their window,
We were at the piano and played a Mozart concerto. Often our eyes went to the window, but we did not stop… We did not want to admit disturbing reality. We wanted to spare our nerves.
It is vital to remember the Holocaust because it is essential for the human community that we refuse to hide behind the curtains and “spare our nerves.” We must be willing to face the dark deeds of which humans are capable. But equally we must be willing to acknowledge the consequences of the choices we made even in impossible circumstances. No one is well-served by dishonesty, pretence or illusion. We are all in danger wherever denial and escapism are offered to explain the horrors victims are made to suffer. We only begin to move beyond victimization when we acknowledge that we too made choices and our choices could have been different.
Kaplan herself entertains a dangerous prescription when, commenting on the tendency of Jewish women in Germany to engage in “denial of their immediate hardships,” by “taking solace in additional housework,” she suggests
Although occasionally their efforts to distract themselves and their families may have kept all involved form readlizing just how significant the increasing deprivations were, some denial was necessary to preserve personal and family stability.
It is difficult to imagine what “personal” or “family stability” Kaplan thinks was maintained by the choice of Jews living in the midst of an avalanche of violence and death to “distract themselves” and practice “denial.” Holocaust “denial” is a terrible and a dangerous choice. Those who suffered most from the terrible events of 1933 to 1945 must surely stand against the denial of any dimension of this horror.

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August 19, 2010 at 8:24 am
Rob H
The whole event is horrible and unbelievable to all effected and victimized.
When you think of today in the way we accept refuges from another country who are being p[persecuted you have to ask the question how do I get to that country.
Another factor is not everybody had monies nor the means to get out of Germany and be accepted in a safe country and that includes today.
The poor souls who managed to leave in the early 30′s but ended up in a country prior to WWII that was then occupied.
We have a lot to be thankful and must remember and must be acceptimg as a safe harbour.
August 19, 2010 at 8:55 am
Jaqueline
This is where I have to take task with those know matter how much they research, stand outside of trauma, personal and social who, draw conclusions about how people should and should not have acted.
The passages in quotation marks are excerpts from an earlier comment from your Kristallnacht post :
“It is difficult to explain to people who have never experienced violence
as a daily occurrence how disassociation kicks in. As well as the ‘keep your head down and shut up’, just to survive you have to categorise your existence, cut fear off and put it somewhere on the back burner. Disassociation is not voluntary. It happens naturally as a result of the continuous trauma of violence and the tenacious will to survive.”
as it applies to people staying:
The human being’s desire to live is so strong that clinging on to any vestige of normality may be the only way to stave off hopelessness. For some fleeing the country was an act of the will to live, for others staying was the life affirming act. For some leaving was an act of cowardice, for some staying was an act of bravery.
as it applies to the general German public:
“One of the great benefits of public displays of aggression to neighbours and people ‘just like you but different’ is the effect on those who see it. It paralyses them. Underneath minds are assessing: ‘it is not a big leap to me being next’.”
“Anyone who is willing to stand up to oppression have to be very aware that they are putting their own lives in jeopardy and willing to risk that.
Most people are trying to simply, somehow get through and survive.”
August 20, 2010 at 8:41 am
Lindsay
Hi Jacqueline,
A question that’s been buzzing around in the my head these last several days is this: When faced with ongoing, relentless violence against people in my own community, who did I disassociate from? myself, the ‘victims’, the ‘perpetrators’, my own people? When a particular act of violence is not directed at me personally, but against people in my community, people I care about, how do I react? If I react a certain way, is it not possible or highly likely that other people in similar or worse situations act the same way, circumstances when for whatever reason neither fight or flight are possible?
1. Do I disassociate from myself? Yes, obviously … I need to in order to survive and not become a quivering mess on the floor.
2. Do I disassociate from the victims? This is complicated. Yes, in order to get through I need to believe I’m not myself a victim, that under the same circumstances because of I am somehow different, the outcome would be different.
3. Do I disassociate for the perpetrators? This is another tricky one … we now know that people in hopeless situations where there is no escape tend to start to associate more with the perpetrators, whoever is more dominant.
4. Do I disassociate from my own people? Yes, I believe this is true for myself, and while I’m sifting through my own observations of what happened with other people, I’m starting to see it might be true for other people too, to some extent. I’m not just thinking of the jockeying for power/control to get higher up the pecking order, even if it means stepping on one’s own people … I’m also thinking of people like the women in Germany in Christopher’s blog who did everything they could to keep their lives as normal as possible for their family.
I suspect we do a person a disservice when we encourage her to view herself as a hopeless victim of her own circumstances. (I’m using ‘her’ … but could be ‘him’ too). The woman who continued on playing the Mozart concert … that must have taken an enormous amount of strength, and I can’t help admiring her for doing that. She survived to witness what happened, while it was happening and talk about it afterwards … Somehow that does make a difference … and seems significant and important, at least it is to me, to have someone observe and report what happened.
August 20, 2010 at 10:31 pm
Jaqueline
I find what you wrote very moving Lindsay
August 21, 2010 at 12:33 pm
Lindsay
Hi Jacqueline,
Would you bear with me a step further … ? It seems to me what I said in #1 is incomplete somehow …
>> 1. Do I disassociate from myself? Yes, obviously … I need to in order to survive and not become a quivering mess on the floor.
Partly I need to disassociate from myself, because I can’t bear the pain of what I see happening around me and the idea that my family and I could easily be next.
But, partly I also need to distance myself from any thought that I myself could identify with the perpetrators and be capable of carrying out or facilitating those atrocities myself, so I will make excuses and defend myself, blaming the law, the government, the army, the media, the lack of social support, ‘invisible sinister forces’, etc.
The thing is, if I don’t embrace my own shadow, if I try to suppress it or externalize it, I will spend an enormous amount of energy trying to run away from it and protecting my children from it, energy which my shadow will suck up and manifest in other destructive ways … albeit perhaps more acceptable forms like nightmares or snapping at my children.
The thing is, I don’t necessarily see the shadow as a bad force, something “to be reckoned with” … it just is what it is.
Where the challenge lies, for me at least, is what I choose to do with it.
Like the lady who played the Mozart concernt, I hope I can have the strength to choose what I do or how I react. The shadow, for me, embodies that power and energy I need, which when I harness and channel it with God’s help, also gives me the strength and creativity I need, to really deal with each unique situation as and when it arises.
For me it seems a way I can find real peace inside myself, and possibly even help restore peace around me. I have a hard time with window dressing.
I’m not sure if I’ve explained this very well? Does this make any sense?
I’d really appreciate your feedback either way.
August 21, 2010 at 9:44 pm
Jaqueline
I am moved again, and I think because yours is a voice from an ordinary person from the inside of that sort of experience. You are form inside yeta an onlooker. No doubt many of us wonder too about South Africa “How could ordinary people let that happen? Why did they not stop it? ” It is so very hard to explain how ordinary people get caught up in the midst of horrible things and end up being powerless or end up having energy only to survive, psychologically or physically.
This piece : “But, partly I also need to distance myself from any thought that I myself could identify with the perpetrators and be capable of carrying out or facilitating those atrocities myself, so I will make excuses and defend myself, blaming the law, the government, the army, the media, the lack of social support, ‘invisible sinister forces’, etc. ” Has got to be one of the most honest and enlightening statements we need to hear.
In the context of 30′s and 40′s Germany how many people found themselves with your dilemma? It takes an awful lot of honesty and strength of character to not identify with the more powerful, but we don’t understand how that is sometimes all a person can do, is not identify with the perpetrator. To identify with the victim may not be possible if you are not able to risk your own survival….and when you see what is happening to the victim can anyone be blamed for not wanting to have the same happen to them?
The thing is in Post War North America and Europe and Australia we are stupid with the amount of choice we think we have. So many in the world have very little choice or if they have choice it is about which lesser evil do I choose? Really if Our Governments decided to go down the road that South Africa and Germany took, do we really think we could “rise up and stop it” ? It took a Civil War to end Slavery , it took a World War to defeat Hitler, It took enormous bravery to end Apartheid (and how far to go) With such enormous forces at work , yes sometimes it really is not a cop out to say ” the law, the government, the army, the media, the lack of social support, ‘invisible sinister forces’,”
Sometimes it really is the truth of the matter.
The thing about this Holocaust story is that we hear about and from those who had the power and were the perpertrators, we hear about and from those who were the victims. We hear about and form those who were the exceptions, who stepped beyond their personal survival, who some might call heroes. But we have not heard about or from those who were the ordinary people who witnessed and lived through this….
We have made our own conclusions about them. It seems to me that we actually do not want to hear from them. Yet we judge them most harshly, we judge them for being the same as us and we judge them because we perhaps recognise ourselves in them and are scared to death that if we were in the same situation that we might not act or be afraid in very much the same manner.
I hope I am never put to the test to find out what sort I am…I hope I never end up on the other end of terrible events wondering if I could have saved a life, or wondering if I could have done more or having to make a choice between my life or someone elses…or what I think might be worse: having no real choice at all.
August 21, 2010 at 11:02 pm
Rob H
Both of you have the ability or should I say the courage to show your emotions and thoughts.
Just as we have had folks who fought in those wars only in the last decade begin to share their stories now we begin to hear of those who were trapped in the fire-storm around them, We are also beginning to hear about those who in their own individual way found ways to hide a friend during some extreme times or were able to get them into another country. Those numbers did not prevent the catastrophe numbers who were killed but it showed that miracles were happening in the fire storm.
If people question why it was not stopped it is because the events that let to theses wars were spread over such a long time, more than decade.
One could say the times seem to have given the people a devil in sheep’s clothing. Best I could do to try to explain.
As Christopher indicated recently, their was a hidden agenda done in small steps to eliminate a people for no other reason then who they were, nothing to do with what one did.
Even the Church was silent and even the church accepted the State to be the universal authority over God.
Course if you were not religious, you probably did not care.
We watched some recent programs which I’ve seen prior where Germany confiscated all manner of Art from al countries and judged persons.
One of the secret storage area in Germany had staff to care for the storage and the lady today said we were scared to know what was in certain rooms and we were warned not to enter. While another person in France quietly wrote down what was brought in once she got home which has allowed them to be returned. Another Lady from Berlin told how the bombings from the planes and Russians were such that they hid in the Underground Shelters , 50,000 of them. They were scared of the Russian army when it was all over. Th leaders told them all was well when they knew around them it was not. The same leadership had old men and teenagers or younger fight to the last. Yes , this was a horrour but it was too late to choose the right thing to do, you were sucked in.
Interesting enough , only Pure Germans were allowed into the Shelters.
So, if your religion did not separate you at the time being say a Swiss married to a German living in Berlin would mean one of you was outside the Shelter.
So, what can we do today
I guess its be aware of injustices on your doorstep and as a Christian (this forum) we cannot judge or discriminate to those who are not , they are loved just as much as we are. This means our leaders must stand up for injustices to people and we must hold them accountable.
I would not say I’m a brave person but I’ll do what I can in what ever way it means.
A lot of ones thoughts and emotions have been expressed by all of you though Christopher’s posts. Some of these post and I shared with CP have been posted to other sites because it is the Internet.
Even today, a lot of anti this and anti that is all over the place.
It is really sad.
Thankfully we do have Christ and his love and protection , we need it
I’m sorry, gone over the map and I did not wish to hurt you.
Blessings
Rob
August 21, 2010 at 11:46 pm
Jaqueline
How could you have thought anything you wrote in that might hurt us Rob?
August 22, 2010 at 8:56 am
Rob H
Jaqueline,
Sometimes we can take meaning of words in a different context when we read fast or stop midway or are tired as have different backgrounds.
Just me late at night, evaluating too much.
Thanks
August 22, 2010 at 12:35 pm
Lindsay
Hi Jacqueline and Rob,
Thanks for your words, Jacqueline, and for your words, Rob. I’m finding it hard to put into words how extraordinarily passionate and insightful your words are, and how deeply appreciative I am to both of you … also to Christopher for allowing this “can of worms” to be opened. When you responded this way, and people like us, ordinary people, respond this way, it gives me a glimmer of hope, that maybe, just maybe, things can be different in Canada.
Something we have access to now, that people in Germany and South Africa, didn’t have back then, is access to the internet. Rob, as you say, we can spread information to other sites, because it is the Internet. The way I see it, the internet can be both a blessing and a curse. It’s easier now to “observe and report” and share ideas through the internet and email, and reach a wider audience more quickly than we could have done back in the days. We don’t have to rely on the organized media as much any more to communicate. It gives us a freedom we haven’t had before. But, with that comes a caveat also that everything we say is recorded, and can be spread and once we express an idea, it is harder to retract and retain ownership.
To me, the internet is great leveller … and I like that ordinary people like us can report on and communicate about things that are happening around us … giving wings to our voice. Sometimes it does matter … I keep thinking of that man who was tasered in Vancouver airport who died …. and someone uploaded a videocam of events as they unfolded. In the old days something like that couldhave been more easily covered up by the authorities or misrepresented in the media.
As the internet is where I spend a lot of my time nowadays, it has become as much my neighbourhood – my backyard, so to speak – as Victoria BC. It’s one way I communicate and stay in touch with my friends and family. Thank-you so much for being in my backyard!
Lately, I’ve received a number emails which ‘open up for discussion’ extremely inflammatory anti-Islamic sentiments, which set off in me all sorts of alarms and whistles, because they remind me so much of discriminatory mindsets so commonplace in South Africa.
The first email I received is aimed specifically at Canadian women. I tried to trace the source of email as far back as I could. The earliest mention of it I could find was on a post back in Dec 2009. Since Dec 2009, the same email has popped up on various sites around the world … ranging from an ultra Conservative Christian website site in the USA to an Islamic Algerian discussion on Facebook, to an Australian website, to a discussion on Fort MCMurray (Canada) to a human rights blog in Africa …. I don’t know where it originated … the original source is supposedly a woman in Vancouver. The way people have responded to this email has been mind-boggling.
Your response and feedback gives me hope ….
Lindsay
August 24, 2010 at 12:03 am
Jaqueline
I sent out a request for prayer concerning Darfur a couple of years ago. One reply I got back was very anti Islam how through this tragedy we are we are seeing the true, evil face of Islam. I was absolutely floored and angry and this came from a Christian. I never replied , but I wanted to write and say that that afternoon I was at Peter Pan Water Park and there were mothers there in their headdress and we looked at each other ( I had the little girls I was caring for with me) and I smiled at them and they gave me the most beautiful smiles in return. THAT is the true face of Islam I would have written.
August 24, 2010 at 7:50 pm
Lindsay
Hi Jacqueline,
I know what you mean … I’ve been getting similar responses to an online petition. Sometimes it’s hard to know how or whether to respond … so far though mostly I’ve been glad when I did because we’ve ended having really good, meaningful conversations and connected in a different way that I don’t think we would have had otherwise.
August 24, 2010 at 8:00 pm
rob h
In terms of Internet and E-Mail spam. Sometimes we get these questionable , emotion loaded emails requesting one to pass on to ensure the truth is known or to ensure prayers are not lost.
An SPAM email example; Things like English Schools insisting you must learn Islam or you will be failed. I Sent an email to BBC requesting was that said and be searching Internet discovered a site that tracks false emails.
In this case, the subject was not true , it had only been a suggestion to introduce another alternative as in all religions but you would not be failed if you said no. Course the original assumption was still circulating two years later.
This is not the first time I’ve found false emails circulating and get in trouble with my family for informing them to check out who sent it to you.
This is not the first time
August 24, 2010 at 9:38 pm
Lindsay
Yes, Rob. You’re right … it’s not the first time this has happened and probably won’t be the last ….