In the parish newsletter that went out last week, I wrote a letter to my congregation encouraging us to consider ways we might prepare through Advent to celebrate a holy Christmas.
Here is the letter essentially as I sent it out to the good Saints of St. Philip:
Friends,
In the church we seem to be constantly swimming against the flow of the prevailing culture. At no time is the tendency of the church to be out of sync with the rest of the world more evident than in the days
leading up to Christmas.
In preparation for December 25, the world encourages us to sink into the unconsciousness of spending, partying, and ceaseless activity. In contrast, the church calls us to use the days prior to Christmas to stop,
simplify our lives, reflect, and wake up.
Advent calls us to pay attention to our lives. In this season the Spirit summons us to identify ways we choose to be unconscious and then to turn from those numbing choices that keep us from being more fully the bearers of that Light that is our true nature.
Jesus summed up the Advent theme when he challenged his followers to:
Open your eyes, for you do not know what time it is…
Therefore, keep awake—for you do not know when the master of the house will come,
in the evening, or at midnight, or at cockcrow, or at dawn,
or else he may find you asleep when he comes suddenly.
And what I say to you I say to all: Keep awake. (Mark 13:32,37)
The Gospel challenges us to refuse to settle for life on the surface. Jesus invites us to penetrate more deeply, to go beyond the wrapping paper, the glitz, and the distractions life provides in such abundance.
There is a Deeper Mystery. In this season we are invited to open to this Deep Mystery, to enter the flow of Love that sustains all of life. God calls us to awaken to that dimension of life that is so easily and so often neglected in the busyness of our lives.
All the presents, parties, and warm family gatherings, are calling us to acknowledge this deep abiding Presence we experience at the heart of life when we refuse to settle for the artificial satisfactions promised on the surface.
Here are a few suggestions of ways you might practice preparing to open to the deep part of your being where Christ is waiting to be born:
- In the midst of a shopping blitz, stop for a moment; breathe deeply, and draw to mind something or someone you are grateful for.
- Before eating a meal, stop for a moment; be still and quiet; open your heart.
- When stuck in traffic, in a shopping line- up, or any situation where you might feel trapped, notice something of beauty and be grateful to the One who has created everything.
- In a difficult conversation, allow your shoulders and your hands to relax; open your heart to the person with whom you are speaking.
- Perform a routine activity slowly and deliberately: walk up the stairs more slowly; turn off the engine in your car and before rushing out the door sit for a few seconds; eat attentively; don’t rush to
respond in a conversation. - Watch for any opportunity to create space in your life; rest in that space and recognize the presence of the Deep Mystery at the heart of life.
These are all gifts you can give yourself in this Advent season. They will not max out your VISA card, or increase the stress and tension in your life. They may help you discover a new lightness in your being
and a new freshness in your spirit.
As you enter this season of preparation may you experience God’s call to rest in the Deep Mystery of Love who holds you and offers you the gift of eternal peace.
God Bless you all,
Christopher

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November 28, 2011 at 12:37 pm
Jennifer
I’ve been reading Richard Rohr about leaving the notion ot the infantile Jesus coming at Christmas. I am far from family at this time of year (actually most of the year) and am trying to envision what Christmas means with all those trappings. How would one celebrate the birth of light into darkness without the excess that surrounds us? What if you are far from family physically and spiritually? Then what? What is an authentic celebration of this feast?
November 28, 2011 at 12:39 pm
Jennifer
PS: for years I have struggled with Christmas. I must stay on my toes and very alert for the negative emotions that well up. I wonder if others feel like this too?
November 28, 2011 at 1:44 pm
Tress
Yes Jennifer,I am sure that there are many people that for different reasons.have negative feelings about forced jollity. When my children were young, it was a natural break in the bleakness of the season. We celebrated with a totally Christian celebration , or with most of us combining with earlier pagan customs and ceremonies to hasten the return of the light of spring, and embracing the message of love that Jesus brought.
Whilst I am blessed with loving children, i live alone. It is harder for me to join into other peoples’ celebrations, even those of beloved family.
For me , thankfulness for the life i have, and the understanding that I am loved is enough.
For you, perhaps you must make an effort to be with other people , either friends or perhaps a church .
It is all about love. and not looking back, we only have the present moment At the worst, there are people here that wish you well.
November 28, 2011 at 2:18 pm
Jennifer
Tress, thank you for your words of wisdom. I love the phrase, “not looking back” because that thought provides hope. For me, the last few years I’ve gone to a lodge on a lake. It is not well known, so hardly anyone is therre and those who are there are very quiet. These have been my happiest and most serene Christmas celebrations. It is where I find peace.
November 28, 2011 at 7:29 pm
jaqueline
I am like you Jennifer,
I am constantly far from family. Even when near relatives, I am far from them.
Christmas is mostly treated as family time ..and even when invited to a family’s house it feels like an intrusion, watching others do Christmas an observer rather than a participant. So I don’t do that anymore. I am not sure what the cure is..obviously finding an adequate family is not an option, I have the family I have..
The best Christmases I have had are those around an ‘Orphan’s Christmas’ table . But why must orphans have one unto themselves? Why are we not all gathering families and orphan’s together? What about Christmas being restored to a time when we remember we are all family whether we are related or not.? One in which families gather a number around them and know that they are not all on their own either.
November 28, 2011 at 10:16 pm
jennifer
Hello Jacqueline,
I understand what you are saying.
November 29, 2011 at 10:22 am
Tress
me too Jacqueline.