7:00 p.m. Monday 15 May 2017 – Chemainus, BC

Presenters: from the Corrymeela Community in Northern Ireland which began before “The Troubles” and continues to serve in Northern Ireland’s changing post–conflict society.  The organisation grew organically from the original Community members, and today almost 40 full–time staff and dozens of volunteers work alongside the eleven thousand people who spend time in their residential centre every year.


Shona Bell – Head of Enterprise and Logistics at Ballycastle Centre

And Teri Murphy Centre Support Team, Exec. Director Dept

 Teri Murphy, Ballycastle

Teri Murphy – You all live inside projections. People seldom believe you are who you are.

Shona Bell – in table groups answer the question: How would they know that you are getting angry? (five minute table discussion with feedback: “I get really quiet.” “I start to speak really fast.” “I drum with my fingers on the table.” “My face gets flushed.” “My words come out clipped.”)

We need to be conscious of our own humanity. We know ourselves quite well in our tummies, but others know us even better.

In this time together we want to step back, think about reconciliation and see how we get there.

What happens when conflicts are not attended to?

We want to invite you to look at your conflict style.

We are going to do some internal work here in our time together. We want to do personal work taking a case study of a conflict you have been in or perhaps are presently experiencing. Then we want to unpack it using a few tools that we are going to giver you.

Inside this case study, where you on the road to reconciliation?

We would like this to be a shared space, creating together a community of learners. If my students don’t want to learn, I am really handicapped as a teacher. So we hope this will be a shared experience.

Our time together is going to be very dialectical.

Question: Reconciling what to what?

Answer: That’s a really hard question.

Bishop Logan McMenamie: I have no idea what reconciliation looks like. It is a journey we are on. We will discover this journey with the First Nations People as we make the journey together. We will discover what this journey looks like for us in our congregations, and what it looks like in our own lives.

In the church there are different views on so many things, different views of who God is, what the church should look like, what our theology should be. We have people with different views of how to work with all these different visions.

How do we reconcile our congregations with the neighbourhoods in which we find ourselves?

What does reconciliation mean for me? Where in my life do I need to be reconciled? What does it look like? This is yet to be discovered.

Teri Murphy – we are still in a messy place in Ireland. We do not have it all worked out. There are so many areas in which we still need reconciliation – between families, within people in their own lives and how they reconcile with what they have done. Your journey of reconciliation is going to be very different than mine.


Wisdom from the evening’s closing prayer service:

The human mind and heart are a mystery… (Psalm 64:7)


What I think about:

The Latin root of the English world “reconcile” is reconciliare, made up of re- ‘back’ (also expressing intensive force) + conciliare ‘bring together.’ So we are talking about bringing back together. This implies that something has been separated and therefore needs to be brought back together.

So, it is an interesting question: “Reconciling what to what?” What has been separated? What needs to be brought back together?

Are there some separations that cannot/should not be brought back together? Are there times when it is important to recognize that some human relationships are simply broken and the only healthy thing for everyone is to move on? Are there limits to reconciliation?

Is it possible to be separated in a healthy way? Can I be separated but stay open?