Tuesday 15 May 2018 – The Rev. Dr. Martin Brokenleg

Gabor Mate – “If you tell me your birth order and what was going on with your parents when you were born, I can tell you all the health issues you will face when you turn 60.”

Rupert Ross Indigenous Healing – doesn’t believe in jail time. Believes in conditional sentencing. Tries to get to know the people is is prosecuting. Understands that their behaviour always comes from somewhere. There are reasons. The residents in the Indian Residential School system were so overwhelmed , they completely shut themselves off. It was the right thing to do at the time to deal with the emotions they couldn’t handle. But the cost is that you never learn to deal with your emotions. Instead, you seek peace in drugs, alcohol and other destructive behaviour. You suffer from unprocessed emotion.

No one gets over the effects of intergenerational trauma that was experienced on a constant basis. Addiction is never an accident. The presence of addiction correlates 100% with childhood trauma.

A new term was recently coined to speak of child survivors of the war in Syria. They are called “human destruction syndrome.”

People who have been traumatized in their early lives, quite often go into the helping professions.

If you figure out what your woundedness is, you will become great at what you do.

If you have four yeses or more on the ACE questionnaire, you suffer from a severely traumatized childhood:

Adverse Childhood Experience (ACE) Questionnaire

While you were growing up, during your first 18 years of life:

  1. Did a parent or other adult in the household often swear at you, insult you, put you down, or humiliate you? or act in a way that made you afraid that you might be physically hurt?
  1. Did a parent or other adult in the household often push, grab, slap, or throw something at you? or ever hit you so hard that you had marks or were injured?
  1. Did an adult or person at least 5 years older than you ever touch or fondle you or have you touch their body in a sexual way? or try to or actually have oral, anal, or vaginal sex with you?
  1. Did you often feel that no one in your family loved you or thought you were important or special? or your family didn’t look out for each other, feel close to each other, or support each other?
  1. Did you often feel that you didn’t have enough to eat, had to wear dirty clothes, and had no one to protect you? or your parents were too drunk or high to take care of you or take you to the doctor if you needed it?
  1. Were your parents ever separated or divorced?
  1. Was your mother or stepmother often pushed, grabbed, slapped, or had something thrown at her? or sometimes or often kicked, bitten, hit with a fist, or hit with something hard? or ever repeatedly hit over at least a few minutes or threatened with a gun or knife?
  1. Did you live with anyone who was a problem drinker or alcoholic or who used street drugs?
  1. Was a household member depressed or mentally ill or did a household member attempt suicide?
  2. Did a household member go to prison?

Neglect can be the worst form of abuse.

We victims keep silent believe that we caused the behaviour by which we have been traumatized.

What an addict is looking for are all normal human needs.

The authentic self is the only way to grow in holiness.

Most people are doing the best they can working with what they’ve got.

A Franciscan Prior – “It is time for us to stop using religiosity to hide pathology.”

It is not the job of the client to look after the professional.

If you have been severely traumatized, you have to do your own work over and over again.

It is an extraordinary thing for us to be forgiven. I have worked with a number of Residential School survivors who have come to be able to say, “Canada, I forgive you.” When you forgive, you are setting yourself free.

Why did Jesus talk so much about healing and spend so much time doing healing?